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1st Birthday Cake Smash – Toronto Child Photographer

In this business, many photographers get close and personal with many clients. It’s the nature of our job. We are not department stores…it’s custom portraiture which means giving clients unique portraits
that they will enjoy for many years to come.

When Mr. N’s mum { G } contacted me, we connected right away.
She’s funny, beautiful, very sweet and has a great artistic eye!

Mum brought Mr. N’s sister…who was very feisty, sweet and made me work for the images…which is always so worth it!
A big thank you to mum and her wonderful sister  { S } for being so patient, helping out and just being overall awesome!
I LOVED working with you guys!!

Enjoy!

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Fall Family Session – Toronto Family Photographer

I started photographing this family when their little one was 3 months old.
Over the course of the year I’ve had the opportunity to photograph the little ones milestones.

This session however, was for the whole family. Something for them to have of their togetherness, and the love that they have for each other.

It has been a beautiful year StR family.
Thank you.

Enjoy your images!

p.s. I am absolutely LOVING the black and whites here!!

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Bullying, Decisions and Old School Solutions: Part II – Toronto Photographer

You are here because you probably read part one of my son’s  story “Bullying, Decisions and Old School Solutions…and if you didn’t…then please go back to do so. Just so you have an idea of what’s what.

You can read part one here.

What I did was sit down and think really hard about how to deal with this whole bully situation as a family and how to help my son deal with this issue along with what would benefit him the most, now and in the future.
While most parents do the best that they can for their children, there comes a time when you realize that your child may need someone from the outside.
Someone not a part of the family so to speak. Or maybe that someone is someones…such as a group of people.

I looked at my son and saw that he was floundering.
Hard.

And because I’m really not a kumbaya person…I started to Google various martial arts dojos.
I called a lot of different places, but nothing really clicked for me.

Then I called up a mixed martial arts dojo. I spoke with the manager there…Jessica, and she understood me. She totally got where I was coming from as a parent, when I sat there chatting her ear off about why I am looking for this for my kids.
We were invited to visit the next week.

Jessica made us feel very welcome.
We went over what is offered at the gym, and the benefits to our children. (Parents get perks there too!)

Needless to say we were so impressed, we signed them up…the same night.

First class came around and all the other kids and teachers made them feel welcome.
The teachers there are firm, kind, and very experienced.

The first week I saw my son get his smiles back.

The third week I saw that he was trying hard….and was more confident in himself.
The fifth week he learned that not trying doesn’t pay off.
The sixth and seventh week he earned his first belt and he learned that to earn a belt he had to work for it….and he was so proud  to have earned that belt!!
In his own words: “I think that this belt is going to be the most special. This belt made me realize that Marco was right. Belts are important, but learning is more important.

He started school on Tuesday. He was super excited to go and very happy to see all his friends that he hadn’t seen from over the summer.
He has a new aura of confidence about him . People see this. Children see this.
My son is back to how he used to be.
A confident, smiling, happy, go lucky child that is much loved.

As a parent I can teach my child many things.

I can teach them to respect others.
I can teach them to be good people and I can teach them much more.

Sometimes though, we need something or someone that is not within our circle to teach our children that little bit of extra…whatever it may be.

We found this little bit of extra at Revolution Mixed Martial Arts and Fitness.

I know that some people will say, “But you are teaching your child to be violent.”

NO. I am NOT.

A practitioner of martial arts recently wrote:
” My sensei always used to say ‘best self defence is not to be there.
Second best is to spot trouble and avoid it.
Third best is to diffuse the situation.
Only when all else fails should martial arts be needed!’

Another also sums it up quite nicely.

“… it teaches one the mental, verbal and physical self protection skills [needed] to deal with the one who never has had the benefit of such an education.”

As I said, I don’t do kumbaya when there is nothing being reciprocated.
When I see effort, and that a parent cares not just about their child but about mine also,  enough to want to sit down and find a solution…great.
We can pretty much fix whatever comes our way.

But when you as a parent have a laid back attitude and diminish what my child is going through…then I will empower my children to be able to find solutions on their own
and to not fit the cliche of ‘victim’ that has been assigned to them…due to policy.

So for all of you parents out there who would like to have their children be more confident and able to stand up for themselves, Revolution is having a FREE Bullying Seminar.
It is going to be held on Saturday September 13th from 10:30am-12pm.

You do need to register before hand.

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elena - this is such a great post to raise awareness!

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Missy B - Great post, Martial Arts are a great way to empower kids, so glad you found something he loves!

Shuanna - What a great post!! I think it is so awesome that your son found a hobby that taught such great lessons and boosted his self confidence! Bullying is such a huge problem these days.

Kristy - What a great way to look at it…. “… it teaches one the mental, verbal and physical self protection skills [needed] to deal with the one who never has had the benefit of such an education.”

Michele - It’s great to hear about parents that care. Great information!

Lauren Weeks - I love that you sought out solutions. My son is three and I have often though lately about what I would do being in a situation where others were making him miserable. I also love that you’re admitting that you simply don’t know it all and that sometimes it takes a village, others to help us help our babies. Thanks for sharing your story!

geather - Sounds like a great event to raise awareness and help those who fall victim to bullying

Eden - I totally agree with your solution, Effie! I just signed my four year-old up for KungFu.

merryfields photography - Thanks for the kind comments everyone!

It is really hard seeing your child go through something like this. To say that I was happy with the decision we made would be such an understatement!!

Sometimes we as parents have to admit that we don’t know everything in order to get the help we need.

That being said, I found what worked for me and my family. Everyone will make their own choices and their own decisions.

Bullying, Decisions and Old School Solutions – Professional Photographer

First off, I am going to start by saying that I had a really hard time writing this.
I had a chat with my son prior to me posting this for a few reasons.

I have a policy that I will never ever post anything about my children (whether it is a photograph or something written about them) that will make them feel uncomfortable or embarrassed in a month, a year or 10 or 20.
I also needed his permission to tell his story.

So here goes. I hope I do him justice.

I think that I can safely say that as  parents, the one thing we want for our children above all is to be happy.
Well, happy and safe.

We want them that way wherever they may be, whether in our home, at school, at an after school program etc.,

Well there was a time when my son was not so happy.

When he first started kindergarten he was over the moon to finally be a big boy and go to school!

We all went to drop him off that first day. With his backpack -that was almost the same size as him-and his big smile, I felt good.
I felt that all was right in the world.

My son has always been happy go luck and friendly with all kids. He doesn’t like to be mean and he doesn’t like it when people are mean to him.

When he was in grade 1 and 2 we went through a lot with various aspects of bullying.
From being punched, kicked, choked to verbal abuse.

One boy used words to bully him. He was told that he wasn’t a good friend, and that he sucks, and he’s a loser.
All because my son wanted to play with other children and not just with one child consistently for every single recess or lunch break.
He invited this boy to play with him and his other friends…but the boy didn’t want that.

This boy eventually started hitting my son. Punches, kicks, pushing, etc.

When I spoke with the teacher and the principal about it, they said that they would try to keep them apart.
Reality is that is very hard to do. One teacher in a classroom of 20+ kids cannot keep their eye on each and every child. They try…but it’s not feasible.

A lot of back and forth went on. A lot of me getting upset as how my son was being treated was an on going issue.

Then other kids stepped in.
They saw that there are certain things that they can get away with…for a time at least.
They started excluding my son from playing together. The same children he was in school with from junior kindergarten started excluding him.
He was hurt and he was embarrassed and he was quiet about it.
Then another child decided it would be cool to grab my son by the throat a few times and choke him.

Stop Bullying

They told me they have an anti-bullying policy in place.

This anti-bullying policy unfortunately is turning our children into victims. I found that while the focus is in discussing with a bully what they did is wrong and all that nice stuff…what my child is being taught is
‘If you are hit, run and tell a teacher.” “If you are made fun of, run and tell a teacher.” “If you are bullied, in any way shape or form, run and tell a teacher.”

We are teaching our children to run away, and have others deal with the issue.
We are teaching our children to not stand up for themselves in any way.
We are teaching our children to be a victim imo.

My philosophy is this: My child has the right to defend themselves against (thank you R for this little bit of eloquence) man, woman or beast.
If they are attacked, they need to protect themselves.
If they feel that they are going to be attacked they need to protect themselves.

Does this mean that I want my child beating up any unsavoury little twits that feel entitled to treat people like garbage?
No it doesn’t mean that at all.
What it does mean is that I want my son to be able to stand up for himself.
I want him to be able to assess a situation and know when to back off and leave and have the confidence to deal with it if need be.

My son had none of that.  He couldn’t understand why people would be mean or even want to be mean to others.

I told the teacher and the principal that I had given my permission for my child to hit back if he felt that he was about to be hit or if he was actually hit.
I told my son that he has my permission to smack back if someone is hitting him.
I told my son that he has the right to defend himself…but never to bully another.

Here was the problem though.

My son did not know how to do that.

My son did not know how to defend himself.
He did not have the confidence to do that.

He was scared.
He was lonely.
He was sad.

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I hated that my child was scared and made to feel this way. I am not a crier, but this whole situation that transpired for over a year made me cry and wonder if today would be the day that he would be seriously hurt… and it also made me feel like I wasn’t doing the best I could to protect my child and have them be in a safe environment.

My son had nightmares about it. He also had a break down. He’s a tough little cookie that doesn’t like to cry but that day…while he was trying to hold his tears in, he told me how miserable he felt. How alone at school and how he was being treated and he could not understand why. What had he done to be treated that way?

To say that I had enough would be an understatement. A severe understatement.

I was tired of dealing with parents that did not care about what their children did.
I was tired of dealing with parents who did not want to have a role in their child’s life.
I was tired that the schools hands were efficiently tied by a district school board and their policy  and there wasn’t much to be done.
I was tired that the police could not step in to intervene because the law says that the child must be 12 years of age before anything could be done.

I was fed up and tired and didn’t want to sit back any more just crossing my fingers that policy would fix a situation that was having a very serious toll on my child’s well being-both mental and physical.

So what was my solution?

I’ll be posting that in the next few days…

Edit September 10, 2014: Part II was added here: http://www.merryfieldsphotography.com/my-son-was-bullied-part-ii/

Kassandra Lee - Thanks for sharing this.

Chantel - Very emotional and powerful. Well done on speaking your mind lets hope many more do the same.

Eden - Ugh, this is one thing I hope I don’t have to deal with as a mom. I’m sorry your son is going through this. I hope he finds a solution and the strength to stand up for himself.

Beckah - I’m so sorry little man had to go through this but I know for a fact he comes from great stock. He’ll come out stronger than he went in. I just hate that it had to happen this way.

Cynthia Dawson - Oh gosh, this is so sad. Your images are so very powerful. I look forward to the next post.

Samantha Munyard - Powerful story and images!

Brianna Hays - This brought tears to my eyes…So moving and powerful!

Gretchen - I can only imagine how difficult this was to write. Thank you for sharing your heart in order to help others.

Candy Hoehn - This is so incredibly sad! No mother wants to ever feel this way or have their child treated like that. Please let us know how you dealt with it!

Laura Cora - My heart goes to you… it’s so sad…

My Son was Bullied… Part II » merryfieldsphotography.com - […] You can read part one here. […]

6 Months Old Mr. { D } – Toronto Child Photographer

As a child photographer I am very luck to be hired by families documenting their child’s milestones.
I’m lucky because in a way not only do I get to see how they grow over the course of a year, but with families like the one I recently photographed,
it’s a great way to be able to sit back and literally relax when taking photos. Their company is always so much fun and invigorating!

So little Mr. D has the cutest, chubbiest little face that one has ever seen! The rolls he has going on are just super sweet!

Without further ado, Mr. D, in his 6 month debut…

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Lai - I love taking pictures of 3 months and 6 months babies because they are awake and alert. They interact with you more, but not too mobile to let you chase. Cute pictures!

Beckah - Oh my gosh! That outfit + that background = awesome!

Elly - He is super adorable! I love his little outfit!

Katie Brockpahler - He is so stinking cute!! I love the backdrop and his little outfits!! Great job :)

Eden - Love his pilot outfit! Too cute!

Steve Harvey, Von Doughnuts and the Beginning of Our Culinary Expedition

One day last week, the kids and I were watching tv together while having a snack.
We were watching The Steve Harvey Show.

I love Steve Harvey. One of the original Kings of Comedy , his sharp wit and classy demeanor has always made me a big fan of his.

Anyhow, we were watching the show where they were having a doughnut competition.
My son-who wants to be a chef- said, “Why don’t we have that kind of a doughnut store here in Toronto ?”

I figured that we must have something like this in Toronto. I mean, with such a huge variety and diverse population, I thought that for sure
someone has thought up of creating gourmet doughnuts.

So I Googled ‘gourmet doughnuts in Toronto’.
I was right.
There are many, many–did I say many!? – gourmet doughnut stores in Toronto!! So where to start right?
Well, we picked one and chose a day to go.

The idea here is that my kids and I are going to explore various culinary delights-kid friendly obviously- from doughnuts to pad thai to whatever, through out Toronto.
I want my children to not only experience the city but to experience various other cultures, food stuffs and what not that they probably will not encounter at home.

I don’t make doughnuts, and to be totally honest…I hate doughnuts. Like hate hate doughnuts.  I hate how unnatural they taste and how fake the flavoring is.
So I thought that this would be interesting to do as well for myself…and maybe have my mind changed.

While the two little heathens were super excited about this…my son was over the moon.
He decided that in order to keep track that we should implement a rating system, of 1 to 5 and grade taste, texture, and visual appeal.

Our first adventure took us to Von Doughnuts on 713 Danforth Avenue.

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They are a gourmet doughnut bakery that serves their doughnuts fresh (and trans fat free!!) every day and also caters.

Their decor is sleek and modern with orange and grey tones. It’s super comfortable to hang out in and we loved the seating that they have in the front, which
allowed us to get a peek at the street scene.

Jennifer, was super friendly and was explaining to my kiddos what Doughnut Showdown is all about.
Von Doughnuts is going to be a contestant on the Season 2 Premiere of Doughnut Showdown on September 8th at 9PM EST on the Food Network Channel so make sure you watch the show!
*Maybe pick up a dozen or so to watch it with?* hint hint…

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As soon as my daughter saw the “Mangiacake” …she made her choice. Like seriously, just look at it! She loves pretty, sparkles and anything sweet….so there was her choice.

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My son chose his…based not just on how lovely this doughnut looked…but on the name as well!
He couldn’t stop laughing about the name! His doughnut is called “The Sappy Pig“!

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I’m a big sweet and savory fan and love caramel with salt…so this was my choice. Caramel Salt N’ Pepa…oh my.

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They also serve amazing coffee! I loved my Americano (black)!

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They also have tea…a pretty wide selection of tea. But I do love my coffee…so perhaps next time I’ll take a try at one of their lovely flavors.


My son ordered the Sappy Pig which is a maple dipped, with bacon (yes bacon!!)topped along with peanut butter and Valrhona chocolate drizzled on top.
He gave this doughnut overall 5 for it’s superb taste, beautiful look and he loved the texture of how smooth the doughnut was combined with the bacon on top.

My daughter ordered the Mangiacake. A vanilla dipped caramel and cheese popcorn doughnut sprinkled with gummy’s and sprinkles.
As soon as she saw that doughnut she was jumping up and down! What girl doesn’t like sprinkles?!
She gave that doughnut an overall 4. She loved how it looked but she found the taste not as strong as the other two doughnuts and felt that it could have more taste.

Mine was the Caramel Salt N’ Pepa…or as I like to call it, my total Heavenly Dream Come True!
This doughnut…dipped in caramel and drizzled with Vahrlona chocolate, sea salt and crushed peppercorns..is a fantastical combination!
The flavor just explodes in your mouth and I love the duality of the sweetness tempered by the salt and pepper corns!
Overall…5, 5 and 5 again and again!

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Von Doughnuts was such a treat to visit! I have never in my life had a doughnut like this. Seriously delicious.
Go take a peek, take your kids and make sure that you look at their doughnut menu. I love that not all doughnuts are offered every day, which pretty much ensures that you are getting
something super fresh!

We will definitely be going back to Von Doughnuts to try out the rest of their flavors….or I might just stick with the Caramel Salt N’ Pepa.
I’m a convert…from hating doughnuts…to loving me some Von Doughnuts!

Take a peek at the rest of their menu of wonderfully delicious doughnuts here:

http://www.vondoughnuts.com/category/doughnut/the-daily-dough/

Ashley - Those look delicious! This is such an creative approach to broadening your children’s experiences…and palates! Well done!

Cari - Great images! These made me hungry!!

heather - Great images from what looks to have been a great adventure! And now I’m craving a gourmet doughnut because they looked delicious!

merryfields photography - Thank you Ashley! They were delicious! I’m also happy to say that the kids are looking forward to selecting the next place we are going to check out food wise!

Heather…just do it! ;)

Thank you Cari!

Katie Brockpahler - Those look amazing and I am so inspired to bring my camera along to little family outings like this! I need to do that more (and not just the iphone)!

Newborn Baby G – Toronto Newborn Photographer

It was with great pleasure that Baby G’s mum got in touch with me, looking to commission me for a newborn session!
I had met Baby G’s mum some years back from a Mommy Connection’s group that I had taught a ‘How To Photograph Your Little Ones’ class.

Her little newborn boy was super sweet to photograph and while he didn’t sleep all the way through…we got some great wide awake photographs of him!
Little sister was an absolute hoot with her big huge personality and decisive, “NO’s” she would give us.

Mum & Dad, thank you for allowing me the honor of photographing your beautiful family!

Enjoy!

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This is the …OMG I can’t wait for this lady with the black box to finish what she’s doing with me look!

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Beckah Greenwood - Oh my gosh, that one of him sucking his little pinky is my favorite I think, this is adorable!

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